Ever wonder what constitutes a marriage? Society and most churches only recognize a couple as “married” if they have a marriage license. Although you can be married legally after living together for six months, or simply if your wife (or g/f) takes your last name. Living together and having sex creates an emotional bond that means you are married in God’s eyes whether you like it or not. Having a marriage license doesn’t mean a couple will connect emotionally. Many couples nowadays base love on physical attraction only and have no emotional depth. When the romance dies they find someone else and are usually driven by a spirit of lust rather than love. Couples that choose to live together and have sex don’t understand God’s priority in marriage and usually don’t have a deep commitment-meaning they consider divorce an option. A divorce is basically a breakup with legal consequences so if remarriage is a sin then anybody who has broken up with their high school sweetheart would have to commit to a life of celibacy because we’re only allowed one relationship in life and if that doesn’t work-oh well. Rigid and controlling view of God that leave no room for grace. If a relationhip fails, look at it as a learning curve rather than a failure. You have to work on any life-controlling issues (preferably before you enter into a relationship because they are hard when you are stable). Keep in mind marriage isn’t for everyone. It says in Corinthians that all things are permissable but not all things are beneficial. Not everything that’s good is good for each individual person. It’s a matter between the individual and God and should be settle with divine wisdom and two or more confirmations from others. Follow your heart but lead your heart or else your emotions will rule you and cause much humiliation. However if you are not in a right relationship with God thru faith in His Son you cannot follow your heart because you are still enslaved to your self-directed human nature which will always lead you into sin and bondage (the root of sin is not trusting God to lead).
